Salam dear parents. Have you ever heard your children complain about how they have to carry such heavy bags and that they are having a hard time lugging around the bags at school? Many children have to face this every day and unfortunately, this is not a new issue, but has been around for already quite some time. But parents all around do not take it that much seriously. In actuality, this problem can cause back pains, which is a serious problem, and can bring complications later in the child’s life. This article is especially useful for ourstudents who are entering Primary School, because they are adjusting themselves from the weight of a preschool bag to a real school bag. So, here a few ways to lighten the load;
Choose a backpack that has two wide straps with good padding to distribute the load evenly.
Adjust the height. Kids like to leave the straps loose so the bag hangs off their back. That may cause pain because the lower back is carrying all the weight, rather than the shoulders doing more of the work. Tighten straps so the bag is centered on the back, ideally above the lower curve of the spine.
Use both straps. The one-shoulder method may be cool, but it adds serious pressure and throws body alignment out of whack.
Weigh the bag. Plunk it on a scale, then have your kid step on (without the backpack). Do the math, and pull things out of the bag until you get the bag to be below 10% of your child’s weight. If he regularly has to carry more than he should, get him one of those rolling backpacks that he can pull.
Have them checked if your kid complains of back pain, even if it seems minor-talk to your doc. No amount of achiness is normal, and a physician can recommend strengthening exercises to help ease it.
Check their bags. Children bring all sorts of things to school. Their toys to show off to their friends, mommy’s make-up that they sneak inside their bags, and A LOT of stationeries. Clearly these things are not necessary. So, if they are making your child’s bag too heavy, do take them out.
Alhamdulillah, January is already towards the end. MasyaAllah, time flies so very fast without us even realizing it. Most of our kids probably have settled in with school and have adapted themselves with the schedule. Some might also say they love going to school! Alhamdulillah.. But for a few, they are still like when they were during the first days of school. Still throwing a tantrum and giving so many excuses when it comes to school. So, here we have some tips for you to read on about how to cope with children that screams and shouts when it comes to going to school.
It’s not always easy to get anywhere on time with little kids, but it’s worth making an extra effort to be prompt on school days. A child may feel like an outsider if the others are already there, engaged in activities.
Children tend to feel uneasy if they arrive and they see that the classroom is already bustling. It’s much easier for them if we get there a bit early, especially on “high-risk” shyness days, such as the beginning of the school year and the first days back after vacation or illness.
Being on time at the end of the day is just as important. Standing alone while the other kids are happily reuniting with loved ones can cause a young child to worry that by going to school, they risk losing you – or getting lost.
RAISE YOUR HAND
To the degree that your schedule permits, help out in the classroom, participate in fund-raising, read the school newsletter. Your involvement lets your child know that his school is a part of your world, too. More than that, volunteering helps you watch out for your child’s interests.
If you work full-time or for other reasons can’t make such a commitment, you can still be involved through after-school activities and fund-raising efforts. Let the school staff get to know your face. The more you make clear that you’re part of the team – the more credible an advocate you can be for your child
QUIZ YOUR KID
To build strong connections between home and school, you need to have a sense of what’s going on in your child’s classroom. It’s best that you set aside a time to talk with your kids and give them undivided attention. In that time, remember to properly listen to what your child have to say.
But what if your child isn’t such an enthusiastic reporter? If your “What did you do in school today?” is answered with “Nothing,” you have plenty of company; most children don’t like to be quizzed. Plus, young ones may not even remember all of the day’s experiences. So ask small, undaunting questions that will help jog the memory: Did you get to play outside? What did you have for snack? What did you sing in music? And when your child does talk, be a good listener.
FACILITATE BONDING WITH OTHER KIDS
Kids need to feel bonded with at least one other child. Ask the teacher if she’s noticed who your child is hanging with. Ask your child which kids he’d like to invite over to play. Do remember to teach them how to make friends. Help them in any ways you can if a problem comes up along the way in making new friends. Your child needs a companion. They wouldn’t be able to cope with the entire school hours if they are all alone.
CALM HER FEARS
Most school anxiety is caused by worries that adults might find silly, such as the fear that you’ll die or disappear while she’s at school. Point out that naturally people who love each other don’t like parting, but she’ll have fun, you’ll be absolutely fine, the school can always contact you, and your love is always with her even when you aren’t. End every conversation with the reassurance “You know I ALWAYS come back” so she can repeat this mantra to herself if she worries.
If your child is not happy at school, chances are that he/she won’t be learning that good either. They will tend to lose interest in whatever is being taught in the class. InsyaAllah, if we follow the tips given, our children will get to enjoy school and learn a lot more, and go to school a lot happier!
And Allah Knows Best,
Salam dear parents. Every now and then, we meet new people and make new friends. And for our children, this may be their first time making friends, especially for those who just began schooling. Studies say that parents play a big role in teaching their children on how to make friends. So, here are some tips in helping our little ones create new friendships with their schoolmates.
Teach kids to converse politely. One of the most important aspects in making friends is our communication with other people. People tend to like other people who can talk and listen properly and tentatively. These kinds of people tend to have a kind of “magnet” that attracts people to talk to them and become friends. This is nonetheless true for our children too. Therefore, we should teach our children to address people properly, and talk with nice words. For example, never call a person with a teasing name. Don’t comment on other people’s physical characteristics, unless complimenting. Also, talking with nice words means inserting words like ‘please’, ‘thank you’, ‘sorry’, and so on.
Teach your kids empathy. Empathy is very important in every kind of relationship, especially with children that are sensitive and are easily affected with the situations that are occurring around them. It may be hard to make children understand the concept of empathy, but here a few guides that can help you;
-Point out other people’s behavior. Teach your kindergartner to notice when someone else has behaved kindly. You might say, for example, “Remember how friendly your new teacher was on the first day of school? She helped you feel less scared.” By doing this, you reinforce her understanding of how people’s actions can affect her emotionally. Ask your child how she thinks the children in a fairy tale are feeling, and whether she thinks she’d be scared or brave in the same situation. Tell her how you might feel too.
-Ask them to think of others. Each day is full of opportunities to remind your child to think about how someone else might feel. It’s simple — say you’re in the grocery store and your child asks for some sweets. Say, “Sure. Now, do you think your little sister would like us to bring home a treat for her?”
-Teach nonverbal cues. At the playground or park, find a quiet place where you and your child can sit and observe others without being rude. Play a game of guessing what other people are feeling, and explain the specific reasons for your own guesses: “See that man? He’s walking really quickly and his shoulders are hunched, and he’s making a mean face. I think he’s angry about something.”
Empathy needs to be thought as it teaches children how to find good friends, and avoiding those bad ones. Other than that, it teaches our child to bring a higher confidence in themselves, by knowing that other people are nervous too in creating new friendships with people they haven’t met or talked to before.
Smile. Do teach your children to smile, to everyone, everyday. Smiling really lifts up the mood in the atmosphere, and makes the people around a lot more approachable. This means that it’ll be a lot easier to make friends, as the ice has already been broken, with just a simple gesture. A smile J Tell your children to smile when greeting their teachers, smile when talking to their friends, and smile even when they are doing the work their teachers gave them in class.
Proper manners. Our children are still very young and small, and have a lot to learn, especially about manners. Do teach your children things like
-looking in the eye of a person when talking
-getting in line properly
-waiting for their turns
-Talk with a soft voice
-Knock before entering
-Not interrupting adults’ conversation, and so on.
Children who have proper manners are seen as a lot more friendly, and have a bigger tendency to have more friends wherever they go.
Dear parents, there are a lot of things we can do for our children to help them make friends. But, as much as we try, our efforts will prove fruitless as long as our own children don’t have any drive to do so themselves. So, make it as a habit to tell them that having friends is a very good thing and that everyone at least has a friend or two. Nevertheless, do monitor our children when they are making friends as nowadays, many children are influenced by bad habits from their friends, and also fall to peer pressure, even at a young age.
Insyaalah, our children will get the best of friends at school and will look forward even more to learn everyday!
And Allah Knows Best.
The day has come , we can’t believe that our little toddlers are in preschool now! The first days can be a bit of an emotional roller-coaster, both for parents and children, which might take a day, a week or even a month, really. For children, it can be a big adjustment to get used to going to school for a half day, while parents often worry about how their children will cope.
But despite all that, school is a very much wondrous place. It’s where A LOT of things happen. And missing out on school means you’re missing out on a part of life. Though, it can’t be helped that some children really can’t leave the comfort of home. Especially when they are just starting school. They don’t like to wake up early, they don’t like to leave home, and being away from their parents. Fortunately, we parents have the power to turn all that around. With a sense of commitment, du’a, in shaa Allah, crying children who are throwing tantrums can be jumping and bouncing around when school is mentioned.
But before that becomes a reality (which seems so impossible for those with children who would come to the extent of being literally DRAGGED to school), parents first need to know how to make school a better place for their lovely little kids. The first week of school can be tough, but here are a few tips for you and your bright and delightful children.
Get up early. A rushing and hectic morning draws everything back. Especially your child’s mood for school. So get yourself and your child out of the oh-so-comfortable bed earlier. This means you can have a relaxed breakfast, leave enough time to deal with upsets — and still get to school on time.
Prepare early. Make the getting-ready-for-school ritual as stress-free as possible. For example, lay out all his notebooks and clothes the night before. Having the child help with school preparations the night before can also reduce stress for everyone.
Focus on fun. If you escort your child to school, check out the playground before you go in. Meet the teacher together and take a look around the new classroom for things you know he enjoys, like art supplies, the canteen, or the reading corner.
If your child gets upset, acknowledge the feeling and ask her for suggestions. You might say, “I know you’re upset. I bet other kids are too. Let’s think about what will help you feel better.” Suggest reading a book together or starting an activity.
Ask the teacher for help. If your child won’t let you go, turn to the teacher. She probably has a lot of experience with this. You might say, “Let’s go say hello to your teacher together. She will take great care of you.”
Pack extra clothes. Some children wet their pants at school, which can embarrass them. Reassure them that it often happens and is nothing to worry about. Encourage them to tell the teacher. Pack spare clothing in the bottom of their bag.
During the first few weeks of school, your children are still learning to adapt to the new school life that they are entering. So, do remember;
-they may be tired at the end of the day. Don’t plan too many after-school activities; make sure they have time to rest and for free play
-they may want to tell you all about their day as soon as they see you. Be available to listen. Some children may want to relax first
-encourage them to talk about good things that happen at school
-make reading with them part of your daily routine. Bedtime stories are a great way to end the day.
In a nutshell, we have to remember that going to school, especially if it’s the first time, is not a mere routine for our children. Therefore, try not to put too many expectations on yourself or your child; if they are happy and enjoying school, that’s already a real achievement!
And Allah knows best.